Christopher Anderson is the executive director of MaleSurvivor, a leading organization that provides information and support to male survivors of sexual abuse and their loved ones.
In an interview via Skype with Action 4 News, Anderson makes it clear that there's no circumstance in which an 18-year-old can justify sexually molesting an 11-year- old.
It's something Joel Cuellar appears to do when he tells police, "We are gay," according to a report. "There's absolutely no way that an 18-year-old can say that it's okay for us to have been doing this because he wanted it or were just made this way," Anderson said. "Homosexuality does not in any way justify sexual molestation of a child." He calls the 11-year-old boy's statement to police that he cared a lot of about the 18-year-old suspect, typical of abuse victims who fear they did something wrong.
"Having that taken away in a moment where there's sirens and police all around with lots of confusion and chaos, I can certainly understand the emotional trauma that that kid may have had at that moment," Anderson explained. The former Edinburg North quarterback was allegedly caught with his pants down in a parked car with the unnamed boy last Friday. Cuellar did know the boy, according to police who say both later admitted to several instances of sexual abuse over the last 3 months in the form of oral sex. "There's no way an 11-year-old can give their informed consent to participate in that kind of activity with somebody who is so much older than them," Anderson said. Action 4's Ryan Wolf asked Anderson if a victim of sexual abuse, especially at such a young age, can lead a normal and productive life. "When somebody does get support, especially early on, then the healing process can begin," Anderson answered. Statistics show, 1-in-6 boys will be sexually molested before the age of 18. Those who don't receive help and internalize the abuse face long term problems including: higher rates of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and even suicide, according to Anderson. He believes by talking and openly acknowledging the abuse, anyone can make a difference in the life of an abuse survivor. Click here to learn more about MaleSurvivor.org Click here to join Ryan Wolf TMs Facebook page Click here to follow Ryan Wolf on Twitter