Stabbing shows how domestic violence hits children the hardest
Fri, 10 Jan 2014 00:13:02 GMT —
It's hard to imagine ever recovering from such a traumatic attack of domestic violence.
But advocates against it said these types incidents can have a lasting emotional impact especially on the children who witness.
The intruder, 50 year old Pedro Guzman Jr., is accused of breaking into a Raymondville home early Wednesday morning and stabbing his ex-wife and her current boyfriend multiple times.
It all took place, in front of the divorced couple TMs 15-year-old son.
Investigators say the teenager was so stunned and afraid that he did not call police until his father, the suspected attacker, fled the scene.
"The 15 year old boy TMs reaction is very normal-to be witnessing such violence from his father to his mother," said Executive Director of the Family Crisis Center Dr. Rebecca Farrell.
The center serves both Cameron and Willacy County. Dr. Farrel said the majority of 911 calls reporting domestic violence doesn't come from neighbors, it actually comes from children who witness the violence firsthand.
"Helping children learn what they witness between their parents or the adults in their lives is unhealthy is important [so] that they break the cycle [where] they don't have to control somebody else or that love means hurting," explained Farrell.
She said therapy can be a big help, but it starts with adults, who need to only address the issue with their children, but also need take a stand.
"You can really help one another more if you are more open to acknowledging that violence does occur. That people you know are being hurt, and that we can play a role in saying, ~Enough is enough and we're not going to tolerate this anymore TM," said Farrell.
She said even if someone may no longer be in a violent relationship, it is important to take necessary precautions such as creating a safety plan and filing for a protective order to protect yourself and loved ones from a former abuser.